Chronic illness

FOMO: The Fear of Missing Out

One of the hardest things about dealing with multiple chronic illnesses is that I am often afraid that I am missing out on things in life. I think Facebook makes it a whole lot worse. I see people I know getting engaged, married, buying homes, starting families, advancing in their careers, getting advanced degrees, and sometimes I feel like I am behind…like my life means less….like I am somehow failing. 

I know everyone has a different path, but there are times I wonder what the heck the point of my struggles are. The idea that time is passing me by so quickly is a little frightening. I only have one life…what if I am doing it wrong? 

Luckily I usually tend to keep a very positive mindset…there are just times I feel a bit sad. And I let myself feel this way. It’s kind of like grieving for the life I thought I’d have. But I don’t let myself feel depressed for too long because I know how many incredible blessings I have. And I am truly grateful. But I am human too.

Take care,

Lindsay B.

4 thoughts on “FOMO: The Fear of Missing Out

  1. Thank you for putting my thoughts and feelings into words. I have been home since Nov. 26,2013 and as a result of my injuries I have had diseases that have now flared up and have to be treated. Hep C is the scariest one. I hopefully will be able to start treatment on Jan 21 although I will be unable to work. I do my best to stay positive and I try to find people to encourage. Especially those who are worse off than I am. They make me feel grateful for every day I can open my eyes and I thank God so much for that. Thank you for your posts. God bless you!

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  2. …..Okay. I wish I had seen this sooner.
    Your career, marital status, current living situation or empty womb have nothing to do with your self worth. If you never moved from where you are now, in any of these categories, you’d still be the caring, beautiful and motivated woman that you are.
    With that said, I understand. I have unfollowed every single one of my friends on Facebook. Sometimes their accomplishments seem to slap you in the face at the wrong time. Doing so gives you the opportunity to follow only support groups and check up on friends as you please, when you’re content. Something to consider?
    Always remember that the things people post on social media are the peaks of their lives. Never compare your behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reels. You never know what goes on beyond the filters and pounds of makeup. No one shares the arguments, terrible days at work or self esteem issues. Being chronically ill, we’re open to all of that and more. It’s a vulnerability most people can’t digest. I hope you can feel better knowing that your raw emotions, especially the sad ones, show strength and courage. i admire you for it!

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